“The worst-tempered people I’ve ever met were the people who knew they were wrong.” ~ Wilson Mizner, born May 19 1876 – 1933

Women who support each other emotionally and mentally during this rapidly changing world [of lifestyle, fortune and circumstance], are, in my mind, evolved and can be termed “good sisters”.  By helping each other rise above the difficulties thrown at us on an almost daily basis, we could create a better world and a better image of ourselves as a group. A group, who command respect and equality, will help to throw off the shackles of discrimination of any kind, from any gender, race, colour or creed. But first, we need to respect ourselves.

Watching women judging others, especially their fellow women, is a scary thing to behold. The envy and jealousy is palpable and the constant criticism only serves to confirm the insecurities of those doing the judging. I watched this happen recently within a pretty close-knit blogging community and the bitterness and ugliness and yes, jealousy, that reared its head, was monstrous and the criticism, vitriolic. At this point, the proverb “it takes a village [community] to raise a child” kicked in. As a group of women, we should rise, as one, to support our sisters, against any form of abuse and standing up for their rights. Dr Phil McGraw’s well-known quote, “we teach others how to treat us,” rings very true. Only we can change the way we are viewed by others. The way we speak about each other to each other, as well as to the male gender, paves the way for their treatment of us. Women should always find ways of supporting women in a bond of sisterhood.

There may be differences and disagreements, but through it all, as women, we should respect and understand each other in spite of, and because of, these [differences/disagreements].

If you haven’t yet read the novel, Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, by Rebecca Wells, do so soon. It’s a great book to read a second time as well.

Siddalee Walker is living a life she always dreamed of, successful in her career and about to marry her fiancé. However, memories of her parents’ unhappy marriage force her into thinking twice about going through with her wedding. She visits with her mother’s friends, the Ya-Yas, hoping they can change her mind about love, happiness, and family. Her mother’s scrapbook, the Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, enlighten Sidda as to the triumphs and tragedies which shaped her mother.

These (below) are by ©  Phylicia Perry

  • A woman with impeccable character is worth more than diamonds; She is priceless”
  • “A gentle answer will diffuse anger, but an unkind word will stir it up”
  • “A genuine sister is never judgmental but will tell me the truth about myself even when the truth isn’t pleasant to hear”
  • “When people hear the music of your life, they will ask for the words”
  • “What I believe, shapes my behaviour”

Hope you’re having a good day,


About d1nx

Techno-Gran living and working in Pretoria, South Africa and spending 3 months of the year with my 2 daughters and their husbands and 5 grandchildren on the East Bay, Northern Californa. Started blogging on my recovery from Spinal surgery in 2007 and have taken many twists and turns on my life's journey and varying chapters of my life.
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22 Responses to Sisterhood

  1. Priscilla says:

    An excellent post! All of what you have said is so true… we need to stand together to be stronger in times of need.

  2. Tandy says:

    I was raised by a village! Good post my darling Dinx xxx

    • d1nx says:

      Hi Tandy doll… thanks for the visit. Ja.. thought you’d understand the village part… pity those days seem to be falling away.
      HUGS xxx

  3. Lilibee says:

    Hi Dinx, awesome post. Hope you are well.

  4. Lilibee says:

    Hi Dinx, awesome post. Hope you are well.

  5. Succulent Woman says:

    This is the most incredible post I have read.
    My female friends and I have a bond like you mention. What a pity that most women cannot be and behave like this!!
    But then again, it is their own insecurities coming out I suppose.

    Live life being true to yourself and harming none!!

    • d1nx says:

      Hey there SW. Thank you so much for the compliment.
      How sad is it when women snipe and bite at each other? I agree that their insecurities are the source of the venom. Sad.
      But yes, I like your credo – very much!

  6. Tokeloshe says:

    This is an excellent post!

    Real food for thought.

    I saw the movie, Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, which was good, but I can imagine the book was even better.

    May you have a wonderful day!
    Take care.
    Big hug

    • d1nx says:

      The movie was terrific, but I’m glad I read the book as well. Much more substance and meat to the book. Which is understandable.
      Thanks Toks,

      Enjoy yours :) xxx and hugs
      PS I left this yesterday but it came out as a separate comment.. Dashit :)

  7. d1nx says:

    The movie was terrific, but I’m glad I read the book as well. Much more substance and meat to the book. Which is understandable.
    Thanks Toks,

    Enjoy yours :) xxx and hugs

  8. 68ghia says:

    This rings very true D!
    Go well dear…

  9. granny1947 says:

    I found you!!! Good post..The dreadful comments…then deleted….were so ugly…the reason I migrated.

    • d1nx says:

      Hi doll. So glad you found me! :)
      How’s Cape Town today? We had beautiful sunshine nad moderate weather.. quite blissful actually :).
      Have a super evening. xxx

  10. brandy says:

    WOW, yet again. Brilliant post and what you have said here is so true Dinx. Respect, weather you like or agree or not, is so important for us as woman.

    Love and miss you

    • d1nx says:

      Brands!!!!.. hi my doll. Good to see you. Yep… we all seem to be able to identify with being part of a sisterhood… the few who don’t, have quite a bit of learning to do, not so?
      Love you loads

  11. Sonel says:

    Hey sweetie! What a lovely post! You are such an awesome writer and you speak right to the heart! Thanks for giving me this link! I will subscribe so I can see when you post new stuff!
    Love & Hugs

    • d1nx says:

      Hi my love. Thanks so much for the lovely compliment. I really appreciate it.

      Glad you know where I ‘live’ now ;).

      HUGS xxx and mucho love.

  12. Dee says:

    We girls can be the best and worst for each other!
    Great post, Dinx

    • d1nx says:

      We can indeed Dee. Will speak during the week – it’s the yarzheit for my mom tonight/tomorrow, so I’m not really good company :(.
      Lotsa hugs and love. xxx

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