Women who support each other emotionally and mentally during this rapidly changing world [of lifestyle, fortune and circumstance], are, in my mind, evolved and can be termed “good sisters”. By helping each other rise above the difficulties thrown at us on an almost daily basis, we could create a better world and a better image of ourselves as a group. A group, who command respect and equality, will help to throw off the shackles of discrimination of any kind, from any gender, race, colour or creed. But first, we need to respect ourselves.
Watching women judging others, especially their fellow women, is a scary thing to behold. The envy and jealousy is palpable and the constant criticism only serves to confirm the insecurities of those doing the judging. I watched this happen recently within a pretty close-knit blogging community and the bitterness and ugliness and yes, jealousy, that reared its head, was monstrous and the criticism, vitriolic. At this point, the proverb “it takes a village [community] to raise a child” kicked in. As a group of women, we should rise, as one, to support our sisters, against any form of abuse and standing up for their rights. Dr Phil McGraw’s well-known quote, “we teach others how to treat us,” rings very true. Only we can change the way we are viewed by others. The way we speak about each other to each other, as well as to the male gender, paves the way for their treatment of us. Women should always find ways of supporting women in a bond of sisterhood.
There may be differences and disagreements, but through it all, as women, we should respect and understand each other in spite of, and because of, these [differences/disagreements].
If you haven’t yet read the novel, Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, by Rebecca Wells, do so soon. It’s a great book to read a second time as well.
Siddalee Walker is living a life she always dreamed of, successful in her career and about to marry her fiancé. However, memories of her parents’ unhappy marriage force her into thinking twice about going through with her wedding. She visits with her mother’s friends, the Ya-Yas, hoping they can change her mind about love, happiness, and family. Her mother’s scrapbook, the Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, enlighten Sidda as to the triumphs and tragedies which shaped her mother.
These (below) are by © Phylicia Perry
- A woman with impeccable character is worth more than diamonds; She is priceless”
- “A gentle answer will diffuse anger, but an unkind word will stir it up”
- “A genuine sister is never judgmental but will tell me the truth about myself even when the truth isn’t pleasant to hear”
- “When people hear the music of your life, they will ask for the words”
- “What I believe, shapes my behaviour”